How often do we take something
like a trip to the beach for granted? After reading this article, you may think twice about
walking-on-by the next time you see someone sitting a bit anxiously on a beach
towel. Perhaps a smile is all it will take to put that person at ease and make
their beach experience a great one, again. You may never know how bumpy their
road in life is but a friendly smile can make their trip easier, even if only
for the day. Healing starts one second, one minute, and one day at a time. And… after reading this story, you may never look
at chicken cutlets the same way again.
It is my pleasure to share an amazing writer with you.
My guest writer today is
Connie Bramer who, like me, is a breast cancer survivor/thriver and an author
who wrote the snarkiest book, How Connie
Got Her Rack Back, (most of the time I tried not to fall out of my chair
laughing) about her experiences concerning everyday-life during cancer treatment
and her ultimate survival to become a Thought Leader. Today Connie helps other
cancer patients and their families during and after treatment.
I believe anyone who laughs at themselves laughs with the world. ~Kat Kanavos
Laughter is a big part
of the healing process. So laugh ‘till it heals while reading this article.
Walking hand-in-hand with her while I read how Connie got her rack back was an
honor. I now share this honor with you, my readers, with the hope that Connie’s
sense of humor lifts your spirts and brings a chuckle to your heart.
Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-
Kanavos
A Trip to the Beach
by Connie Bramer
We all have our
insecurities, and perhaps I’m mentioning
the beach bit now – in the middle of winter no less – because I just got back
from a beach vacation. No one wants to run full-on Bo Derek down the sandy edge
of the ocean after eating Thanksgiving dinner, Christmas cookies, and all the penne a la vodka in between. In
this case, we are talking about me. Or are you in this scenario also?
Anyway, here is the drill.
You spend copious
amounts of time and postage buying bathing suits, throwing them on and saying
under-your-breath “WTF was I thinking,” only to toss them back in the bag,
throw on your boots and take a trip to the post office to return. Sound
familiar?
You finally find the most “suitable” no-pun-intended suit for your body,
because there is no designer on earth that nails it perfectly for every varying
body that God and our eating and exercise habits has bestowed upon us. By the
way, men, do you struggle with this at all? Or do you not care? Which is it?
So you squeeze into your suit, throw on
a cover-up and head to the beach.
You sit down on your towel;
strip off the cover-up and think, “Is anyone looking at me?” I noticed this the
other day as I did much the same on my hombre blue towel only to notice that no
one gave two shi** about the girl from NY stripping away her cover-up on the
beach.
But here is one aspect we breast cancer (and many other types of cancer)
survivors don’t voice. Some of us have deformities where once a strong part of
our bodies used to reside. Me, I know my breasts are not perfect now after umpteen
surgeries to rid myself of my cancer and to reconstruct my new “rack,” but
whose breasts are once you pass your mid-forties and have birthed two children?
I think of the women I know and those I don’t
know who chose not to have reconstruction or those who chose to have one
mastectomy and have what we call a “chicken-cutlet” prosthesis on one side. My
mom had that, and I know that it used to
get too hot on her chest so sometimes she would take it out and put it in the
kitchen table! And no, not for chicken dinner as my younger brother once
decided to inquire.
So why am I writing all of this? What is
the point? Here is the epiphany if you will.
We all
come in different shapes and sizes, backgrounds and experiences. We are all imperfect, so why do we
continue to beat ourselves up about it? And moreover, WHO CARES?
We are our own worst enemies.
Take what you will from
this short story of self-reflection. My only ask is that you lighten up on yourself a little because that’s what
I’m going to do. They say that misery loves
company but so does happiness. So, be a little kinder to yourself.
Thank
you, Connie Bramer, for sharing your deep insights on self-reflection with us. Yes,
it is our choice with what and whom we surround ourselves. And since we are
always wherever we go, perhaps we should lighten-up on ourselves to promote our
own happiness. Connie, it is my hope that you will share more of your wisdom
with us in the near future.
Guest Writer Bio: Constance (Connie) Bramer is a Breast
Cancer Survivor and author of How Connie Got Her Rack Back. She
is the Founder/CEO of Get Your Rack Back
Inc. which supports cancer patients and their families. Learn more about Connie
here: https://gyrb.org/
About Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos: VIDEO Podcaster,
three-time Breast Cancer Survivor, and Dream Expert seen on Dr. Oz,
DOCTORS, NBC, & CBS. Her Divine Dreams diagnose her illness. Kat and Duke U Dr. Larry Burk co-wrote, Dreams That Can Save Your Life. She’s a Syndicated Columnist, TV
Producer/Host and award-winning Author/Lecturer who promotes patient advocacy
and connecting with Divine-guidance through Dreams. “Don’t tell God how big
your problems are. Tell your problems how big your God is.” Learn more @ www.KathleenOKeefeKanavos.com
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What is the Key to living a healthy life? What are the next steps can we take to move beyond the limitations we have often allowed to define us? How can Spirituality become a part of this process? The words, “Just get well,” sound so easy yet it is difficult for many of us living with some form of addiction disease which can go beyond substances to include eating, relationships…and yes, even sex!
Is there such a thing as an addictive personality that is more prone to addiction to alcohol, drugs, other substances and even relationships that hold us back from achieving our dreams and life goals?
Yes! Addiction includes yet goes farther than substance. It can include that “crazy kinda’ love.”
The word addiction has been used loosely as a part of our lexicon such as; “I’m so addicted to the Bad-boy lover…I’m so addicted to sweets…She’s addicted to parties…. On the other hand, someone with addictions may be in denial. Or their family and friends may ignore obvious signs as a form of denial.
At this point, you may be thinking of past relationships that did not work out right in your-life-plan, or a certain substance that you may consider an important part of your lifestyle. Or you may be asking yourself what the signs of “real addiction” are.
What is true addiction?
According to Medical News Today:
Addiction is a chronic brain disorder, and not merely a behavioral problem or simply the result of taking the wrong choices, according to the American Society of Addiction Medicine (ASAM), which has given addiction a new and long definition. … But the disease is about brains, not drugs.
Different diseases have and display different symptoms. This standard applies to addiction.
What defines disease? According to Merriam Webster:
Disease. 1 : a condition of the living animal or plant body or of one of its parts that impairs normal functioning and is typically manifested by distinguishing signs and symptoms: sickness, malady infectious diseases a rare genetic disease heart disease.
If you recognized, have addressed, and are successfully living beyond-your-addictions, you may be asking yourself this important question, “What is my next step?”
Here are four Tips for you that are also Keys to Living Life to the fullest.
They were shared with the audience on the Kat Kanavos VIDEO Podcast aired LIVE and is posted for your viewing pleasure at the bottom of this V-article for your viewing pleasure.
The Expert Healing Panelists and authors are Dr. Jane Galloway, Jim Phillips, Dr. Rev. Denise Alexander Pyle, and Scott Phillips.
4 Tips to Live a Healthy and Fulfilled Life.
Jane Galloway– “Keep moving in life. Don’t get stuck on the bridge [between sickness and health]. Understand that a wellness model of recovery is a sustainable life-long psych-spiritual path and that defining yourself by illness is not a holistic path or wellness model. So, I would say, ‘Get off the bridge!’”
Rev. Dr. Denise Alexander-Pyle-“I would share a quote from Dr. Carl Jung that really reflects healing and love of yourself which says, ‘ Healing comes from that which leads a patient beyond himself and beyond his entanglement with ego.’ Get beyond yourself and connect with your inner-truth.”
Scott Stevens– “This is a quote that has been a part of every book I’ve written, ‘What causes problems is one.’ And, when you’re looking at your life and experiences…that get you in trouble, that should be a sign to you, a ‘nudge from the judge’ or life. You have to take it seriously and look deep in the places we don’t want to look to see what caused the problem and arrive at the conclusion that causes the problem.”
Jim Phillips– “The Tip I would share is something I do every morning as I take my walk because I want to set the tone for the day, and I believe this is all about coming to our own truth. I ask, ‘What is required of me to allow that which I am to be experienced and expressed through me and as me?’ And then I wait for the response during the course of the day.”
Please enjoy the Kat Kanavos Show Expert Healing Panel posted here for your viewing enjoyment.
About the Author: Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos is a VIDEO Podcaster, a three-time Breast Cancer Survivor, and Dream Expert as seen on Dr. Oz, DOCTORS, NBC, & CBS. Her Divine Dreams diagnose her illness. Kat was an R.H.BLOCH Cancer Hotline Mentor, a Participant for Duke University’s Dr. Larry Burk‘s Breast Cancer Dream Research Program. They co-wrote, Dreams That Can Save Your Life. She is a Syndicated Columnist, TV Producer/Host and award-winning Author/Lecturer who promotes patient advocacy and connecting with Divine Spiritual-guidance through Dreams. “Don’t tell God how big your problems are. Tell your problems how big your God is.” Learn more @ www.KathleenOKeefeKanavos.com
Your Spiritual Next Step Recovery: Dare To Go Deeper!
By
Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos
As Dr. Jane Galloway states on her
website, “We’re all recovering from something.” So,
what is your “something?” How long have you been trying to recover from “it?” Wheather
your drug of choice is a toxic relationship or substance abuse Dr. Jane Galloway
may be able to help you in this VIDEO Podcast Article. Dr. Jane Galloway’s
fifteen minute interview is posted at the bottom of this work for your viewing
and learning pleasure.
If you are reading this article
congratulations! You have accomplished stage-one of your recovery, whatever it
may have been, but, especially if it concerned addiction. And, if you are still
working through the stages, welcome and continue reading.
Recovery of any kind involves
stages. Something as simple as getting over a cold or as complex as overcoming
addiction can take similar stages. The cold virus is always out there, as are
drugs and alcohol. When we have been stress it is easier to succumb to
these illnesses. Then we must be successful at integrating the necessary stages
to embrace wellness.
Now, what is next? Dr. Jane Galloway
is here to share her expertise and answers with you.
As a Visionary leader, recovery
educator, and author, Dr. Jane Galloway has personal experience of traveling
the 12-Step Path as a person in recovery, teacher, counselor, and minister for
over three decades. Her journey and a clear template for supporting Stage
Two Recovery with body, mind, spirit tools are the is the basis of
her book, The Gateways- The Wisdom of 12-Step Spirituality,
published by Sacred Stories Publishing and available on Amazon and other
booksellers worldwide.
Dr. Jane Galloway is also the
Founder of T.R.I.B.E. Transformation/Realization/Inspiration/Belonging/Expression
As a guest on the Kat Kanavos Show
Video Podcast Dr./Rev. Jane Galloway shared some important information about
what she defined as “Next Step Recovery.”
“After Stage One Recovery, and
a dedicated working of The Steps should be a launch into a lifelong process of
integration of body, mind, and spirit beyond “illness” and toward
ever-expanding wholeness.” Dr. Galloway says.
Too often we are defined by our
illness which becomes a crutch that slows us down in life.
As Dr. Jane continues to explain,
“Too many people get stuck on the bridge back to recovery and use AA as a
crutch or substitute for real life. It’s a recovery program! So the goal is to
recover and then learn tools for living that translate into full life.”
For Stage One Recovery, “the rooms”
which are part of Alcoholics Anonymous known as AA are amazing and
transformative. Whether or not a person has the disease of addiction, there
must be respect for all humankind alike if true happiness will ever exist. It
is taught in the rooms of Alcoholics Anonymous how to begin down this path.
But, once all of the Steps have been
worked, and some stability and restoration to sanity and purpose are
established, it is time to conquer new developmental goals. To continue for
years to define oneself by illness or by one’s past is the antithesis of real
recovery. Strength-based recovery pulls forward the strengths of a person
and develops those. To courageously delve into causative issues is so very
important. Addiction is a symptom of deeper traumas, and core wounds are
persistent if not treated. The Gateways offers comprehensive support for Next
Stage Recovery.
As a person in long time recovery,
Dr. Jane Galloway has developed a real appreciation for the spiritual depth of
the 12- Steps as the spine for a lifelong path of psycho-spiritual growth. She
makes a real distinction between recovery and spiritual paths of the 12-Step
path, and culture of AA building upon the expansive spirituality of the AA
founders.
“The Gateways- The Wisdom of
12-Step Spirituality incorporates psycho-spiritual teachings from depth
psychology, world religious traditions, body-mind healing modalities, and
indigenous wisdom- along with concrete practices and humor to support a full
life.” In other words, dare to go deeper in your next step recovery, because
that is the answer to the question, “What is next?”
Please enjoy the Video Podcast
Interview with Dr. Jane Galloway.
About Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos:
VIDEO Podcaster, three-time Breast Cancer Survivor, and Dream Expert seen
on Dr. Oz, DOCTORS, NBC, & CBS. Her Divine Dreams diagnose her illness. Kat
and Duke U Dr. Larry Burk co-wrote, Dreams That Can Save Your Life. She’s
a Syndicated Columnist, TV Producer/Host and award-winning Author/Lecturer who
promotes patient advocacy and connecting with Divine-guidance through Dreams.
“Don’t tell God how big your problems are. Tell your problems how big your God
is.” Learn more @ www.KathleenOKeefeKanavos.com
Coffee lovers wake up and smell the new research that may extend your life. It concludes that your cup or two of morning brew may be good for you, and increase your lifespan. Previous studies stated coffee might shorten your life by leading to life-threatening diseases like cancer. Recent research has changed that thought pattern. Now, a cup a day may chase cancer away. A cup-a-Joe may increase blood flow. The confirmation that my beloved coffee may be healthy has left me so happy it has awakened my inner poet. I promise not to rhyme anymore.
This new research is music to many coffee lovers’ ears and warms our soul which may also lead to a happier life. Science has already proven a happier life is a healthier life. As the research below shows, coffee may even reduce suicide and help patients suffering from Parkinson’s Disease. Coffee may be the miracle answer.
However, it also appears that scientific research contradicts itself from one discovery to the next.
Like the New England weather at Harvard, if you don’t like the current scientific findings on a new health topic, wait five minutes, and it may change.
With over 400 billion cups of coffee thought to be consumed every year, coffee is one of the world’s most popular drinks.
What are the newly discovered health benefits and risks of drinking coffee?
Let’s begin with the risks. Coffee is not for everyone. People with caffeine allergies, glaucoma, epilepsy, and gastroesophageal reflux disease (GERD) may want to stay away from caffeinated coffee. Harvard Research found that drinking eight or more cups daily has been associated with increased suicide risk.
The good news. Two new studies, one in the U.S. and one in Europe, have found that drinking more coffee each day could lead to a longer life. The benefits may range from helping to prevent diabetes, protect heart rhythm, lower risks of high-grade prostate cancer, colorectal cancer, liver disease, naturally treat Parkinson ’s disease, and reduce mental health issues like depression and suicide.
For those infected with hepatitis C, drinking coffee may reduce DNA damage, increase the clearance of virus-infected cells, and slow the scarring process, which may help explain coffee’s apparent role in reducing liver disease progression risk.
According to the Prostate Cancer Foundation these studies tracked over 700,000 people across multiple ethnic groups in over 10 European countries and the U.S. It was discovered that even drinking decaffeinated coffee supplied benefits to individuals over those who did not drink the beverage. The studies have even dispelled the old myth that caffeine might increase the risk of atrial fibrillation, an irregular heart rhythm. Drinking low-dose caffeine, defined as fewer than six cups of coffee a day, may even have a protective effect on heart rhythm.
Research published in the April issue of Cancer Epidemiology, Biomarkers & Prevention, Researchers from the USC Norris Comprehensive Cancer Center examined 5,100 men and women diagnosed with colorectal cancer within the past six months, and an additional 4,000 men and women with no history of colorectal cancer to serve as a control group.
“We found that drinking coffee is associated with lower risk of colorectal cancer, and the more coffee consumed, the lower the risk,” said Stephen Gruber, director of the USC Norris Comprehensive Cancer Center and senior author of the study.
What about coffee and Parkinson ’s disease?
Coffee consumption seems to be associated with about one-third lower risk concerning Parkinson’s Disease. Caffeine appears to be the key ingredient because tea also seems protective and decaf coffee does not. Parkinson’s patients treated with the caffeine equivalent of two cups of coffee a day significantly improved movement symptoms within three weeks.
The studies concluded that consuming 1-2 cups of coffee per day resulted in a 12% lower risk of mortality and consuming 2-4 cups a day resulted in an 18% lower risk of mortality. These results in inverse rates of mortality to coffee consumption showed in diseases such as diabetes, heart disease, kidney disease, stroke, and cancer.
How can coffee help prevent diseases from cancer and heart attack to suicide?
According to Nutritional Facts.org, and USC News coffee is a complex mixture of compounds that have various biological effects, such as anti-inflammatory properties. It is believed that in addition to these properties, coffee is a source of polyphenols which have potent antioxidant properties, which helps cells cope with free radicals in the blood.
Do you know why coffee has been named the number-two healthiest beverage?
The Beverage Guidance Panel assembled to provide recommendations on benefits and risks of various beverage categories, found tea and coffee—preferably without creamer or sweetener—tied as the number-two healthiest beverages, second only to water. The studies in this article are published in the Annals of Internal Medicine.
The National Institutes of Health–AARP Diet and Health Study is the largest-ever prospective study conducted on diet and health. Its research concluded that people who drank six or more cups of coffee per day had a 10 to 15 percent lower mortality from heart disease, respiratory disease, stroke, injuries, accidents, diabetes, and infections. However, the opposite effect was found when a study looked at people 55 and younger. Drinking more than six cups of coffee daily increased their risk of death.
The conclusion, according to Nutritionfacts.org, and based on all the best studies to date listed in this article, is that coffee consumption may indeed be associated with a small reduction in mortality, on the order of a 3 percent lower risk of premature death for each cup of coffee consumed daily.
If coffee is good for the body is it also good for the spirit? Yes!
The Harvard Gazette explained that caffeine could lower the risk of depression among coffee drinkers because it stimulates the central nervous system which may act as a mild antidepressant by boosting production of certain neurotransmitters in the brain, including serotonin, dopamine, and noradrenaline.
Harvard University researchers discovered that people who drank two or more cups of coffee each day appeared to have about half the suicide risk compared to non-coffee drinkers. A Kaiser Permanente study found that people who drank more than six cups a day were 80 percent less likely to commit suicide. According to researchers at the Harvard School of Public Health (HSPH) drinking several cups of coffee daily appears to reduce the risk of suicide in men and women by about 50 percent. The new study was published online July 2, 2018, in The World Journal of Biological Psychiatry.
“Unlike previous investigations, we were able to assess association of consumption of caffeinated and non-caffeinated beverages, and we identify caffeine as the most likely candidate of any putative protective effect of coffee,” said lead researcher Michel Lucas, research fellow in the Department of Nutrition at HSPH.
Your takeaway message of these studies? The benefits far outweigh the risks.
Dr. Marc Gunter, author of the European study summed up the benefits of drinking coffee when he stated, “The takeaway message would be that drinking a couple cups of coffee a day doesn’t do you any harm, and actually, it might be doing you some good.”
Dr. Gunter’s summation was seconded by Dr. Veronica Wendy Setiawan, associate professor of preventative medicine at USC’s Keck School of Medicine, who led the study on nonwhite populations, when she said, “These studies and the previous studies suggest that for a majority of people, there’s no long-term harm from drinking coffee. Moderate coffee consumption can be incorporated into a healthy diet and lifestyle.”
For years my non-coffee-drinking husband would “tisk, tisk” my morning coffee routine and follow it up with, “Be stubborn about your health despite proof that coffee is bad for you. Just sayin’.” The current research is a new day dawning because now my husband brings me coffee in bed. And sometimes, to be sure it is perfect before saying, “This cup is for you,” he will even sneak a sip or two.
I know, I know! I promised not to rhyme. But, my coffee made me do it just one more time. I’m done!
About the Author: Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos is a three-time Breast Cancer Survivor, as seen on Dr. Oz Show, DOCTORS, NBC, and CBS, whose dreams diagnose her illness, and was a Dream Research Participant for Dr. Larry Burk‘s Dream Research. They co-wrote, Dreams That Can Save Your Life. She is a TV Producer/Host and award-winning Author/Lecturer who promotes patient advocacy and connecting with Inner-guidance through Dreams for success in health, wealth, and relationships. Learn more @ KathleenOKeefeKanavos.com
“Why should we care if we dream? What’s in for us?” As a Dream Expert, Dream Therapist, and Dream Author, the question of how, or even if, our dreams can be of benefit to us in our waking world is often asked of me during tele-summits, in emails for my Dream Columns in magazines, and during dream therapy sessions with clients.
Your dreams, especially lucid dreams, are an incredible resource for guidance in your waking world.
According to Wikipedia, Lucid dreams are different from any of the other dreams we may have during the night because the dreamer is aware that they are dreaming.
During lucid dreaming, the dreamer may be able to have some control over the dream characters, narrative, and environment.
Yes, it has been written by many dream experts that your dreams are just “rapid fire brain waves during the sleep state that make no sense and have no benefits to our waking world. Even the esteemed Father of Dreams Dr. Sigmund Freud’s took a psychodynamic approach to dreams as “wish fulfillment” and “day residue.”
I beg to differ with these esteemed and learned professionals because I have the proof. If what they say and write were true, the proposed book proposal for Dreams That Can Save Your Life: Signs of Cancer and Other Diseases would not have gone into a bidding war two weeks after being sent out to publishing houses, and available on bookstore bookshelves eight months later.
Why is the book making such a big statement in the dream and medical community? Because, the lucid, diagnostic, and precognitive health and medical dreams shared by the 40+ patients were validated by medical pathology reports. This is new research.
What makes these Lucid Dreams so different from all the other dreams written about in medical journals and books? They were part of a blind study between lucid dream diagnosis and medical diagnosis. And, the dreams won.
The dream diagnosis came first and then was validated by medical pathology reports.
This published research proves that dreams are not just random mental images fired off by the brain during sleep. The lucid medical dream stories are proof that dreams have a purpose and serve a purpose in our waking world. It also proves that dreams are a means of inner-communication that is very important for life.
Dead people don’t have a waking world.
One of the biggest benefits of Lucid Dreaming is the ability to control and change the ending of the dream. This change, or dream control, can be a form of psychotherapy.
An example is a client of mine who had a recurrent Lucid Dream of her abusive dead father.
Linda’s dead father began to appear in recurrent lucid dreams to tell her he loved her. These dreams had been recurring for many years, and they angered my client because she wanted her father to leave her alone. The lucid dreams were taking a toll on her health, wealth and relationships. Her father’s invasion into her dreams was causing her loss of sleep which was affecting her health, which kept her from work and caused Linda mental and anguish. Her marriage was also suffering from the Lucid Dreams that had become Lucid Nightmares.
My advice to her was to take control of her dream by changing its ending. We made a plan.
Rather than screaming herself awake the next time saw her father in her dream, she was to change the ending by doing three things:
stand up
greet him
And tell him she loved him, too.
At first, Linda was reluctant to this plan because she said she did not love him, in fact, she said she despised him.
“Somewhere deep in your heart your inner ‘daddy’s little girl’ still loves him so you will not be dreaming a lie. Let your Inner-selves be a part of this healing process.” I said.
Linda agreed when she realized that without changing the ending of the lucid dream, it would continue as a recurrent nightmare and control her waking life as well as her dream world.
A week later Linda called me with some amazing news.
“I don’t know what happened to the hate I had been harboring for my father, but during the dream when my father stepped into the room and told me he loved me, I threw my arms around his neck and said, ‘Daddy, I love you too.’ The dream shifted into another dream, and I continued to sleep. I did not wake up screaming. It has been over a week, and the dream has not returned. I feel great because I have had a week of undisturbed sleep. I am going for a job interview tomorrow. “
The Lucid Nightmare stopped, and she never had them again. Her life healed. She no longer needed to attend expensive psychotherapy sessions that were not working.
Taking control of her dreams and changing the ending gave her control over her life and changed her waking world. Change your Lucid Dream ending and change your life for the better, forever.
About the Author: Kathleen (Kat) O’Keefe-Kanavos is a TV Producer/Host and Author/Lecturer of Dreams That Can Save Your Life written with Dr. Larry Burk, Foreword by Berne Siegel, which promotes patient advocacy and connecting with Dreams for success in health, wealth, and relationships. Contact –Kathleen O’Keefe-Kanavos Website www.KathleenOkeefeKanavos.com